Fail…First Attempt….by Trudie Johnston

Fail…First Attempt….by Trudie Johnston

 

So here we are facing YEAR end … we ALL are, except some are a dash more anxious at this time of year for GOOD reason … learner and students, and not to forget their parents.

The exams are done and dusted, an enormous relief all round, but now we await the outcome. Some are concerned as they know they have made it through to the next year, but WHAT do their percentages look like ?? Did they achieve what they wanted to achieve ?? Perhaps a bit more … perhaps they outshone themselves and will make their parents proud ??

Others wait out the collection of those reports in fear – fear of not having achieved their desired results … fear of letting their parents down … this fear is real … and OH what a relief when the report shows that they made it into the next year, even if it was by the slimmest of margins.

Celebrations abound, they cannot hide their excitement, and their parents have a weight lifted from their shoulders … the holidays begin in earnest.

However, there are those who almost expecting to fail. Their parents are expecting to hear from the school, as they have watched the results from previous terms sliding downwards, and even though there has been much encouragement and extra lessons etc, the battle is real. Reality sets in and with regret the school has to cement what has been expected.

Fail has been given such a huge meaning, and keeping up with and excelling have been in the forefront of all academics. You must do well, you need to achieve, but for some the struggle is enormous and real. Gaps have been created throughout their schooling and the struggle becomes worse and worse over the years until finally through one year, it is all too much and they just don’t make it.
Is it the end of the world … it may feel so at the time, it is very emotional. Tears and total disappointment surrounds them and all affected walk out of the principles’ office with heavy hearts. It’s real, it’s happened … and it does to many, many learners out there. So for some the holiday starts with having to face reality, that they will not be moving up with their friends, and they have to tell their family and friends …
It is time for reflection, why did this happen, what does it mean … well the first term that I would like to amend, is that fail actually means: First Attempt In Learning … ie. We just didn’t get it right first time round. Life is full of ‘First Attempts’ !!! Imagine what Edison went through I order to give us ‘light’ ?? How many attempts did he not make before there was ?? Where would we be had he given up after his ‘first attempt’ … so how critical is it to ‘get it right’ first time round ??
If your ‘First Attempt’ didn’t work, you have to figure why … were there changes in year that could have played a roll ?? Were there emotional issues at home that affected the outcome ?? Was there sickness or ill health ?? Were the subjects chosen too ‘big’ and overwhelming ?? Was there enough support ?? Was there enough planning ?? Are we using the correct study methods for our learner type ?? Was there consistency ?? Did we give 100% of ourselves throughout the year ??
Once reflection has happened, changes can be made – WHY would one want to do PHYSICS if, clearly after assessment you would never need it for the field of study you are planning your career in ?? In CHANGE there is GROWTH. Change needs to be EMBRACED and looked at as OPPORTUNITY.
SUPPORT at this stage is key. We need to acknowledge that none of us are perfect in every department. We don’t always ‘shine’ academically, but then sport may be where we achieve best, or perhaps we are the type of learner, that once we are in our chosen field of study/career, we BLOSSOM.

Second time round, things make more sense, we perceive them better, we channel our focus on the task that needs to be done, we are more determined. NEVER, NEVER give up !! Doors that close, close for a reason, they make allowance in your life for another door to open, and where that leads to, one never knows … New Year, new opportunities, new friendships, new possibilities.
Embrace this NEWNESS and understand that LIFE is all about learning, change, opportunities and CHOICE, so CHOOSE to pick yourself up off the floor, dust yourself off, make lemonade out of lemons and show the world just HOW STRONG a person you are !!!

Synergy offers:
MENTORSHIP for High School Learners (or those approaching High School)
ASSESSMENT for Subject Choice in Grade 9
ASSESSMENT for Grade 10 – did I make the right Subject Choice
TERTIARY EDUCATION assessment for Grade 11 and 12 – What are my TOP 3 careers
All of the above is done from an EMPOWERMENT perspective. I want the learners to take OWNERSHIP of the choices they make. I want them to take RESPONSIBILITY for their studies. I want them to grow in CONFIDENCE. I want them to know that:
ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE IF YOU BELIEVE IT IS … If you apply yourself and give of your ALL !!
www.synergy-coaching.co.za
082 9512514 – trudie@synergy-coaching.co.za
So here we are facing YEAR end … we ALL are, except some are a dash more anxious at this time of year for GOOD reason … learner and students, and not to forget their parents.
The exams are done and dusted, an enormous relief all round, but now we await the outcome. Some are concerned as they know they have made it through to the next year, but WHAT do their percentages look like ?? Did they achieve what they wanted to achieve ?? Perhaps a bit more … perhaps they outshone themselves and will make their parents proud ??

Others wait out the collection of those reports in fear – fear of not having achieved their desired results … fear of letting their parents down … this fear is real … and OH what a relief when the report shows that they made it into the next year, even if it was by the slimmest of margins.

Celebrations abound, they cannot hide their excitement, and their parents have a weight lifted from their shoulders … the holidays begin in earnest.

However, there are those who almost expecting to fail. Their parents are expecting to hear from the school, as they have watched the results from previous terms sliding downwards, and even though there has been much encouragement and extra lessons etc, the battle is real. Reality sets in and with regret the school has to cement what has been expected.

Fail has been given such a huge meaning, and keeping up with and excelling have been in the forefront of all academics. You must do well, you need to achieve, but for some the struggle is enormous and real. Gaps have been created throughout their schooling and the struggle becomes worse and worse over the years until finally through one year, it is all too much and they just don’t make it.
Is it the end of the world … it may feel so at the time, it is very emotional. Tears and total disappointment surrounds them and all affected walk out of the principles’ office with heavy hearts. It’s real, it’s happened … and it does to many, many learners out there. So for some the holiday starts with having to face reality, that they will not be moving up with their friends, and they have to tell their family and friends …
It is time for reflection, why did this happen, what does it mean … well the first term that I would like to amend, is that fail actually means: First Attempt In Learning … ie. We just didn’t get it right first time round. Life is full of ‘First Attempts’ !!! Imagine what Edison went through I order to give us ‘light’ ?? How many attempts did he not make before there was ?? Where would we be had he given up after his ‘first attempt’ … so how critical is it to ‘get it right’ first time round ??

If your ‘First Attempt’ didn’t work, you have to figure why … were there changes in year that could have played a roll ?? Were there emotional issues at home that affected the outcome ?? Was there sickness or ill health ?? Were the subjects chosen too ‘big’ and overwhelming ?? Was there enough support ?? Was there enough planning ?? Are we using the correct study methods for our learner type ?? Was there consistency ?? Did we give 100% of ourselves throughout the year ??

Once reflection has happened, changes can be made – WHY would one want to do PHYSICS if, clearly after assessment you would never need it for the field of study you are planning your career in ?? In CHANGE there is GROWTH. Change needs to be EMBRACED and looked at as OPPORTUNITY.
SUPPORT at this stage is key. We need to acknowledge that none of us are perfect in every department. We don’t always ‘shine’ academically, but then sport may be where we achieve best, or perhaps we are the type of learner, that once we are in our chosen field of study/career, we BLOSSOM.
Second time round, things make more sense, we perceive them better, we channel our focus on the task that needs to be done, we are more determined. NEVER, NEVER give up !! Doors that close, close for a reason, they make allowance in your life for another door to open, and where that leads to, one never knows … New Year, new opportunities, new friendships, new possibilities.

Embrace this NEWNESS and understand that LIFE is all about learning, change, opportunities and CHOICE, so CHOOSE to pick yourself up off the floor, dust yourself off, make lemonade out of lemons and show the world just HOW STRONG a person you are !!!

Synergy offers:
MENTORSHIP for High School Learners (or those approaching High School)
ASSESSMENT for Subject Choice in Grade 9
ASSESSMENT for Grade 10 – did I make the right Subject Choice
TERTIARY EDUCATION assessment for Grade 11 and 12 – What are my TOP 3 careers

All of the above is done from an EMPOWERMENT perspective. I want the learners to take OWNERSHIP of the choices they make. I want them to take RESPONSIBILITY for their studies. I want them to grow in CONFIDENCE. I want them to know that:
ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE IF YOU BELIEVE IT IS … If you apply yourself and give of your ALL !!
www.synergy-coaching.co.za

trudie@synergy-coaching.co.za

082 9512514

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